I’m debating whether to go back on OkCupid

I’ve been thinking about whether there is any point in going back on OkCupid. And the answer is: NO! For one thing, I think I’ve looked at just about every single profile on there. No matter where I am, work or home, it’s always the same people showing up in my locals and in my matches. Which makes sense, of course, but still, I’m tired of seeing the same faces.

Also, I came to a realization the other day. The past few months have been pretty amazing. I’ve been going to museums, taking salsa lessons, and going to dinners and bars and dancing with friends every single weekend. It’s been so much fun, and I feel really lucky that I am fulfilled on so many levels.

But you know what else I realized? When I reflected on all of the negative parts of the past few months, they all had to do with guys! ALL of them. This active search for a man that I’ve been engaged in recently, other than providing LOTS of great blog material, has been a total waste of time and has gotten me nowhere. Which is why I’m none too eager to get wrapped up in it again.

Plus, I’ve said it over and over and over, I’m really just not cut out for the forced, interview-style dating that comes with online dating. I need something more organic.

The ONLY reason why I might find myself back on OkCupid is that sometimes I get bored, and the OkCupid phone app is good for at least 15 minutes of distraction a day.

Between birthdays, going on vacation, and plans to get even more involved in the salsa scene, I’ve got a lot on my plate for the next few months. I’m not going to go so far as to say “I don’t have time for a man,” but that’s kind of how I feel at the moment. Of course, that could change on a moment’s notice. We’ll see what happens.